Do you ever have those days when you feel that you don´t fit in with your own family? I am talking about parents of course. Whatever you do or don´t do is never good enough for them. Usually it begins in your early teens. Or to analyze deeper, it begins the moment you realize that you have your own opinion that doesn´t correspond with theirs.

I'm 32 and my mum still think that she knows the better way of me living my life. She often says that she doesn ´t know where she went wrong: she raised 3 of us to do all those steps that society expects, yet all 3 of us took different paths.

No mum, I didn´t finish a university just so you would be unhappy. I simply did not fit in. Maybe if I had a chance to go to a different university I would finish it.

Maybe I will finish it when the time comes. Maybe not.

No, mum, I didn´t find a steady permanent job. Why would I find a job from 9-5? To hate my life the majority of the day? I LIKED changing jobs,learning different things and gaining experiences. And no matter what you don´t understand that, I liked living without the "security" of tomorrow. Yes, I had tough moments. Yes, I still have them. Living without electricity for 2 weeks is ....well different in 21st century . But it gave me a whole new experience. And for 2 weeks I was focused on some maybe more important things. And I took a pledge that it will never ever happen to me unless I decide it. Because feeling helpless for a lack of money is no fun. And thank you for offering yours, but why should you pay for the consequences of my decisions. I never asked you for that. So, no thank you. And no mum, I don´t want to get a loan from the bank to "buy" my own property. You say it´s security, yet you don´t realize that there is nothing secure about our lives. It would only chain me to one place. And what is secure about a bank owning your home for the next 30 years?

And no mum, getting married and having kids was never my priority. Yes, a man that I love is next to me but I don´t need a piece of paper to prove to you (or anyone) our love.

And no, even if I do get married one day, I will not wear a wonderful wedding dress. And I will not get married in church. It will be him and me. Because mum, it is a celebration of OUR love. And yes, he has long hair, beard and a tattoo. Three to be exact. Does that make him not good for me? That is what you thought before you met him. And he proved you wrong.

And yes, I am 32 with no kids. Do I really need kids to fulfill something? You say it is natural. I say everyone has to decide what is natural for themselves. If we ever decide to have them, they will not be there to fulfill us. We will not live their lives for them and we will not think we know better. They will make THEIR choices and we won´t ever try to stop them.

I am trying to live my life without any regrets. On the other hand, you do have regrets. And yet you still think that I should listen to you. And yet you are still very judgmental about all my steps. And you still think that you know best. Why do you think that being my mum gave you the right to judge me? When all I needed and wanted from you was your unconditional love. Isn´t that what mothers are suppose to do?

And yes mum, I LOVE YOU. Unconditionally.

But that doesn´t mean that I will sacrifice my happiness (whatever that is for me) in order for you to be happy.

And btw, isn´t happiness something that each of us have to find inside of ourselves?